Dan Bilzerian has explained why he feels guys give off a specific ‘energy’ while approaching women, which ultimately leads nowhere.

As the dreaded coughing season approaches, you may be in a quandary about finding someone to cozy down with for the winter.

If you’ve tried every dating app and still don’t know how to approach women, fear not: Former marine-turned-poker player and social media personality Dan Bilzerian, who appears to be the expert because he’s constantly surrounded by half-naked girls in his Instagram posts, believes he has a solution.

Bilzerian tells Lauryn Evarts Bosstick and Michael Bosstick on their podcast The Skinny Confidential that’most men nowadays’ appear to have ‘nearly given up’.

“I also believe there’s a little bit of desperate energy,” Lauryn adds.

“That’s what happens […] It’s like a snowball effect,” says Bilzerian, who feels marriage is a trap. You have a good connection, a lady likes you back, you have sex with her, you suck at first, you become better at it, your confidence grows, her buddy wants to bang you, your confidence grows, and things happen, right? As you progress, your confidence grows as a result of your previous experience.

“But if your alternative is like, ‘Oh, this girl shot me down, I’m going to go smoke week, jerk off, and play video games, and that becomes your default setting, then, like, where the f**k are you in a year if you do that for one year?”

According to Bilzerian, after “a year out of the game,” people are “less confident” and “in worse shape.”

“It’s like, where are you?” And it gets progressively worse,” he says.

Question from Bilzerian: “At what point do these guys just give up because after two years, what’s two years and one more day of not having sex right, like it gets to a point where […] you just have a whole bunch of the society that’s basically withdrawn from the game?”

Finally, Lauryn concludes that men are no longer ‘comfortable’ approaching women.

“Most people nowadays are addicted to comfort, and this is true across the board,” says Bilzerian.

“[…] I believe that success in life is doing what you like while simultaneously benefiting others. […] To me, that’s the trifecta of success.”