The fact that Emily Ratajkwoski gave birth to a child, published a book about the politics of the female body and established her own company proves beyond a shadow of a doubt that she is a powerful woman. Despite always wanting to be an independent woman, Ratajkowski discussed the “unfair” ways in which independent women are seen, particularly by males, in her High Low podcast episode from January 3 with model Olivia Ponton.
Ratajkowski added her personal experiences when Ponton and Ratajkowski discussed courting. She acknowledged that she had “always” felt like a “strong woman,” but she also added that she wanted to be independent because that is what society and men had taught her to do. “I prefer independent women, guys have commented. I desire a partner who is independent of me. There’s this negative connotation that women are needy and feminine, so I’m like, ‘OK, I did it,'” she continued. Yay. Wow.’ Which, incidentally, is so screwed up that I would even plan my entire life around it.
“What I hate about dating, and with men in particular, is that I feel like they’re like, OK, you’re special and you’ve done it,’ and they love it,” she went on to say. And as they gradually lose their masculinity, they get resentful of you and begin to undermine you because they don’t know how to deal with those emotions. You are then just back where you started.
Ratajkowski, who notably split from her ex-husband Sebastian Bear-McClard in July and is currently going through the divorce process after four years of marriage, doesn’t specify who she is referring to in her statement. Since then, she has been connected to a number of famous men, including DJ Orazio Rispo, Pete Davidson from Saturday Night Live, and most recently, artist Jack Greer.
“And it’s so f**ked up and unfair,” the creator of Inamorata said, “because I feel like a lot of men who truly think they want a strong woman actually don’t know how to handle it, and they don’t know what it means for their own identity.” She said that it was “one of the reasons” she could understand dating women because “it doesn’t feel like somebody’s taking something away from someone else.”
The author of My Body concluded by saying that in heteronormative relationships, “The strength and the power are associated with the masculine, and once the woman has that, the man doesn’t know what else he has.” But I say, “Why don’t you just get better at feeling what you’re feeling and being there for people emotionally?” That would be wonderful.
Ratajkowski, meanwhile, is not overly worried about finding a man. In an interview with Variety in October, Ratajkowski said she was “enjoying” being single and added, “I’m kind of enjoying the freedom of not being super worried about how I’m being perceived.” She just recently admitted on her podcast, on December 22nd, that she had downloaded a dating app. She admitted on High Low, “I drank a drink of wine, and I was like, ‘F**k it. I was genuinely feeling defiant since so many people advised me against purchasing it.