Imagine living through the Great Depression, World War II, the Civil Rights Movement, and finally witnessing the first African-American president of the United States. President Obama even sent them a signed commendation in 2010!

Zelmyra and Herbert Fisher broke the Guinness World Record for the longest marriage. Their marriage dates back to May 13, 1924. In 2008, they broke the record for the longest marriage at 84 years.

In today’s environment, this appears to be an almost impossible task. Most marriages terminate before they actually begin! According to researchers, 41 percent of all first marriages end in divorce, 60 percent of second marriages finish in divorce, and 73 percent of all third marriages conclude in divorce. So, how did this couple manage to stay together for such a long time and break the world record? What is their secret?!

They talked about their strategies for dealing with adversity and overcoming a marital crisis. Here are the direct responses from the couple who genuinely persevered until they were torn apart by death:

1. How did you know you could spend the rest of your life together? Were you afraid at all?
Every day, our friendship became stronger and more secure. Divorce was never an option, or even a consideration.

2. How did you realize your partner was right for you?
We grew up together and were excellent friends prior to our marriage. A buddy is for life; yet, our marriage lasted a lifetime.

3. Is there anything you would do differently after over 80 years of marriage?
We would not alter a single thing. There are no secrets to our marriage; we simply did what was necessary for one another and our family. (I suppose there lies the secret…)

4. What advice would you give someone who doubts Mr. Right exists?
Zelmyra: Mine was right around the corner! He is never far away, so preserve your trust; when you meet him, you will know for certain.

5. What was the finest marital advice you’ve ever received?
Respect, support, and communicate with one another. Be faithful, honest, and truthful. Love each other with all your heart.

6. What are the most crucial characteristics of a suitable spouse?
Zelmyra is a diligent worker and an excellent provider. The 1920s were difficult, but Herbert desired and provided the best for us. I married a lovely dude!

7. What’s your favorite Valentine’s Day memory?
Zelmyra: I make dinner every day. Herbert left work early and surprised me by cooking dinner for me! He is an excellent chef!
Herbert: I told her I was going to make dinner for her and that she could rest. The look on her face and the clean plate brightened my day! (This made my day!)

8. You married young; how did you both manage to grow as people while not growing apart as a couple?
Everyone who planted a seed and reaps the produce celebrates together. We are people who achieve more together.

9. What is your fondest memory from your 85-year marriage?
Our legacy includes 5 children, 10 grandchildren, 9 great-grandchildren, and one great-great-grandchild.

10. Does communication grow easier over time? How do you maintain your patience?
We converse more now that the children have grown up. We may spend our time together on the porch or in our rocking chairs.

11. How did you handle long periods of physical separation?
Herbert: Z’s hospitalization with our fifth child kept us apart for two months. It was the most terrible period of my life. Zelmyra’s mother assisted me with the home and the other children; otherwise, I would have lost my mind.

12. At the end of a day filled with poor relationships, what is the most crucial thing to remember?
Remember, marriage is not a competition; never keep score. God has put both of you on the same team to win.

13. Is fighting important?
Never physically! Agree that it’s alright to differ and fight for what’s important. Learn to bend, not break!

14. What is the one thing you share in common that goes beyond anything else?
We’re both Christians who believe in God. Marriage represents a commitment to the Lord. We pray with and for one another every day.

Zelmyra and Herbert had an incredible marriage, and we’re fortunate to have their counsel. After 87 years of marriage, it was evident that they were still in love.