A new mother, who had ceased communication with her ex-mother-in-law, asserts that she unexpectedly learned the woman was secretly writing letters to her infant.

In a since-deleted Reddit post, she says, “So now that I’m no contact with my ex-MIL, I’ve found out she’s now writing letters to my 4-month-old baby in case she doesn’t see her again before she dies.”

“I’m not supposed to know about it, so I can’t say anything, but I imagine these letters are along the lines of, ‘Your mother prevented me from seeing you. I did nothing wrong. I love you so much stuff,'” she adds. “Basically her version of events.”

Reddit users have weighed in on the subject, with many claiming the mother-in-law is attempting to shame the woman into opening the lines of contact.

“Yeah, that’s just her trying to rewrite history and guilt-trip you posthumously,” says one writer. “Classic power maneuver from someone who cannot tolerate losing control. Ignore it, block it, and keep your children’s lives drama-free. “You’re the gatekeeper now.”

Another says, “Let her write as many as she wants.” Your child will undoubtedly have questions about her grandparents, and as she grows older, you will be able to explain why one is not in her life. By the time she receives the letters (if she ever does), they will most likely be consistent with what she already knows from you.”

In a follow-up remark, the poster expresses concern that the letters indicate the mother-in-law intends to be involved in the child’s upbringing for many years.

“My concern is she leaves them in a will or something [and] having to deal with this woman still in 20 years’ time because she’s made up some story in her letters,” she elaborates.