A mother claimed she is thinking of contacting another parent about how her kid fled a birthday party after finding herself bowling in a lane alone.

In a Reddit post titled “Am I the A——?,” the 43-year-old mother stated that on the day of the party, she and her 9-year-old daughter Annie arrived approximately five minutes late, as did another student named Betty.

The bowling alley was crowded, so the girls had to wait for their shoes and bowling balls before joining the rest of the group, which included around 17 other girls, according to their mother.

“The hostess allocated three lanes close to each other. As is customary at bowling alleys, there were two curved benches for sitting for four lanes,” the mother noted.

By the time they arrived, the parent reported that all of the other visitors had already taken the first two lanes, but her daughter had been sent to the third lane.

After locating the correct ball for her daughter, the mother mentioned that she overheard another parent remark that Betty will be bowling in the second lane. The mother stated that she immediately asked the birthday girl’s mother if her daughter may bowl with the other guests but was told that “Annie is in Lane 3.”

According to Annie’s mother, as she came over to Lane 3, she noticed that her daughter was “sitting by herself” and the only other person there was an “adult male who we didn’t know.”

Although the mother stated that she asked her daughter if she wanted to join her friends, her daughter simply responded that “she was on Lane 3” and remained put.

“I let her be and went back to talk to some of the parents, but 5 minutes later I realized she was still sitting alone on the bench,” she explained. “I walked over and asked her again why she didn’t join the other classmates, and she said that she felt left out.”

After asking her daughter what she wanted to do, the mother replied that Annie wanted to leave.

On their way out, the mother stated that they were stopped by other parents who volunteered to have their children take turns so that Annie would not be “playing on a separate lane by herself,” but it was too late.

Instead, the mother took Annie out for ice cream, but she was frustrated by what had transpired and refused to let it go.

“I’m really upset how the hostess thought it was ok to isolate Annie and am glad I didn’t just drop her off and leave,” the woman’s mother wrote. “[Would it be wrong] if I sent the hostess an email explaining why we left early and how the setup was exclusionary, and that it was improper to have my daughter bowl with an adult male stranger instead of her classmates?”

Those who commented agreed that the initial poster was right to say something, but that emailing later would be ineffective.

Sending an angry email isn’t going to help right now. “It will only backfire,” one commentator stated.

Others noted that, while the hostess might have done better, she may have been overwhelmed by the large number of children at the bowling party.

“To give the hostess the benefit of the doubt, the party was just getting started, and it’s possible that if you had left, another adult would have realized Annie was isolated over there and corrected it, and I’m sure the stranger was a family member,” said another commenter. “Still. That sucked for Annie.