My husband and his mother decided I should resign from my job and become her maid

There was something strange about my husband Ethan’s entrance when he got home that Sunday afternoon. I could see by his look that he had practiced his next words. I was astounded by his remarks when they eventually came out of his mouth.

Without consulting me, my husband and his mother had made the decision that I should resign from my position. I initially believed it to be a joke. The joke is harsh, outdated, and utterly ridiculous. However, I could tell Ethan was serious by the expression on his face.

Worse? He genuinely thought what he was saying was true. My profession didn’t seem important to my spouse and his mother. Instead, it seemed that I was expected to be their personal housekeeper.

For the most part, things were going well in my two years of marriage to Ethan. We had a comfortable home, steady jobs, and a successful routine. I liked my job as a financial consultant for a corporation. I had always appreciated the independence and excellent pay it provided.

However, there was one persistent issue. Diane was my mother-in-law.

Ethan was deeply devoted to his mother.

Even when his mother’s counsel made no sense at all, he followed it as if it were divine law. Diane, too? She was opinionated on everything. She had strong opinions on various topics, including what to wear, how to cook, when to have children, and how to “prioritize family over career.”

It was draining. But I eventually figured out how to control it. I chose my conflicts carefully. I discovered strategies to gently guide Ethan away from her worst thoughts.

Like last Thanksgiving.

Diane had openly, in front of the entire family, proposed that Ethan and I get rid of our housekeeper.

She had said, “A wife should take care of the home, dear,” while smiling knowingly and stirring her cranberry sauce. “Not some stranger.”

I started to protest, but Ethan just nodded. “She has a point, Sophia.” Oh, how confident he was. I inhaled deeply, fighting the need to hurl my mashed potatoes at him.

Rather, I leaned closer and grinned charmingly. Diane, you’re totally correct. For this reason, I believe Ethan needs to begin cleaning himself thoroughly. After all, maintaining a tidy house ought to be a shared duty if it is so essential.

Diane had a lovely expression on her face. What about Ethan? It was as though he wished to vanish.

Suddenly, the problem vanished that day. I dealt with her that way. I needed to deflect, reroute, and, if necessary, present her own reasoning in a way that she would find acceptable. However, she had gone too far this time.

It never occurred to me that Ethan would follow her mindlessly into this depth of madness. When he returned home from seeing Diane on a Sunday afternoon, it all began. He appeared to be preparing for combat with his shoulders squared and his mouth set.

Immediately suspicious, I looked up from my book. “What’s up?”

“We need to talk.”

I got chills from the way he stated it. Slowly, I put down my book. “All right. What is it about?

He paused, as if he were preparing to strike. Then he gave a quick exhale.

“I spoke with Mom. We also concluded that you ought to resign from your position.

“I’m sorry—what?”

His face was completely serious as he nodded. “It’s for the best.”

It’s for the best.

Throughout my life, I had heard some ridiculous statements. However, this? This was absurd on a whole other level.

“Are you serious?” I got up and laughed.

Ethan’s mouth clenched. “Mom needs assistance with household tasks. In any case, you ought to spend more time at home. You spend too much time at work. We spoke, and it makes sense for you to concentrate on the things that are truly important.

I cocked my head. “Things that actually matter?” He let out a sigh as if he were telling a toddler something painfully apparent. “Work in the home. You have responsibilities to the family. You work in an office all day, but do you feel confident in preparing a healthy supper from scratch? Are you familiar with suitable cleaning techniques? Your privileged upbringing is beginning to show.

Oh, oh.

Diane entered and nodded her approval before I could even respond.

She asserted that “all women should know how to run a home” and “a woman’s value is not determined by her career.” She is capable of providing for her family.

As I waited for the punchline, I looked at her and then at Ethan. No one showed up.

I said, “You can’t be serious.”

Ethan crossed his arms. “It’s not a giant concern. In any case, the job is the source of your constant tension. We will both benefit from this.

“Better for you, maybe.” I bent over. “Ethan, tell me. In what precise way does this assist me?

He paused after opening his mouth. Diane, however, did not halt in the same way. “Dear, it’s about values. There are temptations when a lady spends too much time outside the house.

“Temptations?” I gave her a wide-eyed stare.

Ethan cleared his throat. “Mom and I have been talking, and honestly… we’ve been wondering what you’re really doing at work.”

I gazed at him. “Excuse me?”

He moved, abruptly averting my eyes. “You spend too much time at work. A woman’s family is what makes her valuable. We wonder whether you’re cheating on me because you’re often traveling, working late, and dressing fancy.

It seemed unbelievable to me.

“You seriously think I’m cheating on you because I work hard?” I inquired. “That’s your logic?”

Diane’s lips were pursed. “Dear, it’s not simply reasoning. It’s only basic sense. Family is where a lady belongs. The real world is not where events occur.

I was surprised for a moment and just stood there. Then, gradually, I felt a peculiar calmness.

Oh. Thus, this was their true opinion of me.

Their opinion of me involved more than simply abandoning my work. Control was at issue here. They were intent on turning me into their servant.

What’s the worst? In fact, they believed they were correct.

Ignorant of the fire she had just started, Diane rearranged her cardigan.

“We think it’s best for you to take a step back from your job and get some real-life experience running a household,” she said, grinning as if she had found a solution to a major conundrum.

“Yeah,” said Ethan. “You may assist Mom. She’ll even give you money if you do it correctly.

Oh. That was the game, then.

They believed that my earnings were merely “extra” and that I could afford to quit my job. That as I scrubbed their floors, they could swap it out for a pitiful allowance.

I sighed and tilted my head as if I were contemplating their generous offer.

Then I grinned. Nice. I agree. how they felt about me.

I responded, “You’re absolutely right,” in a casual tone. “I should resign from my job.”

Diane smiled. “That’s wonderful!”

“I’m so proud of you, Soph!” Ethan gave a cheer.

They were both unaware that they had entered their own little hell.

I adhered strictly to their plan the next morning.

I told Ethan that I was totally dedicated to my new position as Diane’s full-time maid and let my supervisor know that I would be taking a long leave of absence.

And I cut off all of my financial assistance, just as they intended.

They didn’t notice at first. Diane was too preoccupied with enjoying the pleasure of having me at her disposal. Ethan, in the meantime, relished the attention his mother got at my cost. Then reality set in.

Did Diane continue her weekly spa visits? canceled.

Which expensive beauty procedures are her favorites? Lost.

The pricey organic foods I formerly purchased? I swapped them out for the least expensive store-brand products.

No more coffee from abroad. The artisan bread and aged cheeses are no longer available. All that’s left is bulk rice, basic oatmeal, and whatever else is available.

Does Ethan still update his wardrobe every month? There is no longer any funding for it.

Weekend vacations? There are no weekend vacations. I laughed as I observed the accumulation of difficulties. Ethan was sitting at the dining table one evening, staring at his bank account. He drummed his fingers on the paper.

He said, “I don’t understand this situation.” “We never had money problems before.”

I smiled sweetly at him. “Oh, that’s because I was the breadwinner.”

Diane, sitting opposite him, appeared pale. “What do you mean?”

I folded my arms and leaned back. “You mean all of the things that made life so nice, like shopping, gourmet meals, spa treatments, and the small ‘extras’?” I covered those costs.

Diane’s mouth parted, then shut again. “But… but we always had enough.”

I gave a nod. “Yes, while I was making money.” Now, though? We all have to make compromises now that I don’t have a source of income.

Ethan yelled, “This isn’t sustainable.” “This… this isn’t going to work.”

I gave a shrug. “I guess you should have considered that before telling me to quit.”

Diane’s flawless little world was crumbling at the seams as her lips crushed together.

However, I was enjoying myself immensely.

For a whole month, I allowed the pain to continue. I gave them just enough time to perceive it. This was necessary for them to fully comprehend their assumptions.

Then, one evening, I sighed with satisfaction as I extended my arms as Ethan pouted over yet another inexpensive supper.

“Good news,” I remarked with a cheerful tone. “I do miss my job. I will thus be returning.”

His expression of relief was priceless.

However, I interrupted him by saying, “Oh, and while I’m at it… I’ll also be filing for divorce.”

Quiet. Diane let out a gasp. Ethan tensed. And when their world fell apart in real time, I grinned.

Soon, the divorce was finalized, and I finally got to live in my house all by myself. Ethan tried asking me for forgiveness, but I was done. I couldn’t let him allow his mother to control our lives. To control my life. To tell me that I’d better work as a full-time maid for her.

And that accusation about me cheating while I was at work? That was the final straw. That’s what made me leave Ethan.